The Trouble with Me

I wanted to call this The Trouble with People but realized it's really about me and my lack of understanding of today's singles scene.

I just got out of a very unhappy relationship that lasted for 10 years. Before that I was raising my son and did not get out much. I dated, got laid once in awhile but for the most part was into my son and breaking the cycle of fathers walking away from their kids. In my case his mother did that. He grew and moved out and I was single but met my bad relationship shortly after. Sometimes I think that those ten years were my last best years of my life and that now I am on my way to nursing home and diapers. Since I got to Florida my opinion of that has changed. My health and my outlook on life has gotten better and I look forward to each day whereas when I was up north I had a hard time leaving my house.

Anyway, you go to a few bars, meet some women, they just want to drink, talk and go home alone. That's OK unless you get strung along for a few dates and then get lied to. It's OK if someone doesn't want to continue to see you but just don't fib. Maybe they think they are being nice to you by not hurting your feelings by not telling the truth. If a person wants to be with someone else, go do it and do it with confidence, don't sneak. The trouble with not being upfront with this is that a person can start to think it was something that they did or didn't do that caused the other person to lie, or not hurt their feelings. Lie's hurt and trust is painful so in the end a person will feel hurt anyway. Just be upfront in your dealing with probable friends and maybe you can stay that way.

So, if you got shot down a few times do not fret, get out there and continue to enjoy what you got and what your doing, things will work out when it's time for them to work out, no sooner, no later.